Masturbation Monday: Why it’s important to SheBop – Choke the Chicken – Tug the slug – beat your meat and all that jizzy Jazz
What is masturbation?
For those of you who don’t know, masturbation is self-pleasuring, rubbing, touching, squeezing, stroking, basically any movement on the body for sexual pleasure. I’m sure most of us reading this article have done it many times over, but you never know, there are some newbies out there who have been very sheltered, this little blurb is for you. Regardless if you use your fingers or a toy – this is masturbation so long as your are doing it yourself. If another person is doing it to you, this is not masturbation. Though there is such a thing called mutual masturbation where both partners watch one another masturbate, and so long as it is done consensually, go to it!
Masturbation is seen at many ages and stages from younger childhood, to teen years and definitely way into adult years when things get really rocking. It’s a healthy way for the youngins to explore their bodies and find out what works for them and what doesn’t. Most of us start with masturbation way before ever having sex and achieve our very first orgasms through masturbation. It’s basically a good way to help prep us for what comes next so we can let our sexual partners know what we like and don’t like cause we’ve already been down there and know where are most sensitive spots are. It’s also a really good way to learn our own anatomy. You’d be surprised at how many women do not know where their G-Spot is, they’re probably the ones who masturbated a lot less when they were younger or at least didn’t explore as much.
What are the health benefits to masturbation?
There are also a ton of health benefits linked with masturbation!
~ It releases sexual tension which thus releases tension overall in the body and in the mind, putting you in a better mood and relaxing the body overall.
~ It promotes relaxation in general.
~ Promotes better sleeping and resting.
~ Promotes the release of endorphins which causes us to physically and mentally feel better overall. It’s like a natural opioid that stems from the brain.
~ It enhances self esteem and body image too!
Crazy Myths Stemming from Masturbation
You may have heard some of these, you may not have. A lot of them are outdated and go pretty far back and were a way of controlling people, especially Christians and other religious groups who shunned sex and sexual relations of any kind, but I am going to list them just because of how utterly ridiculous they are. Obviously, these are not true and were made up to scare people.
Masturbation was incorrectly blamed for infertility, blindness, mental health issues and sexual perversion. (Give me a break!) Blindness? Who in the hell came up with that one? *laughs*
It was also thought that God could see everything you did and that if you touched yourself he would know and that he would be sending your ass directly to hell for participating in such vile activities. But really, God doesn’t give a flying f**k if we play with ourselves. He wants us to be happy and he gave us hands and sexual body parts and made it feel good for a reason. Soo yeah…
Are There Any Bad Side Effects to Masturbation?
Okay, listen up people. Masturbation is a normal, healthy thing, but if you’re doing it twenty times a day, twenty times a week, then that’s excessive and can ruin your sex drive and your ability to perform with your partner. There is a such thing as too much of a good thing, so you have to limit yourself and not go overboard. There are people out there who actually have to seek hep for masturbation addiction and it’s harder to stop than cigarettes. Also, I will add this in here – masturbating to pornography can severely hurt you and your ability to perform with a real, live partner. You can get addicted to pornography as well. It actually stimulates the same part of the brain as heroine and is just as hard to kick. So if you’re beating off to porn every night, you have a problem. This can ruin your sex life altogether and create other issues in your life as well, because if you cannot keep your partner happy, there is going to come a time where your partner isn’t going to feel great about that anymore because they have needs too, and this goes for men and women.
Chronic masturbation can also find you skipping and missing out on every day things and life so you can stay home and masturbate. I’ve had subs I’ve gotten off of masturbation before because it was taking up far too much time in their life. They would have a pile of dirty laundry sitting on the floor for a week but claimed they didn’t have time to do it, but because of their chronic masturbation, this took up a ton of their time. They were also cancelling plans with friends and family just so they could stay home and jerk off. If this is happening to you, you have a problem. Please feel free to contact me about discussing a plan to pointing you in the right direction! And don’t be embarrassed, this happens to a lot of people.
Now Let’s End on a Positive Note
Guys, there is some cool stuff you can learn about while masturbating (ladies too!) but guys. You can actually look into Tantric sex and learn about retaining your semen so you can have multiple mind blowing orgasms just like us ladies do! Try this website and try looking up others about retaining your semen during masturbation and intercourse > https://www.menshealth.com/sex-women/a19545094/how-to-have-multiple-orgasms/ < and check out how you can do this with strengthening your PC muscles and breathwork!
Ladies you can do this too, I have four orgasms during Tantric sex and they are mind blowing! I learned how to do this by using a Yoni Egg to strengthen my muscles and masturbation to find the right ways to use my body, after that sex became even more incredible. To check out the Yoni Eggs and learn all about them click here > https://yoniegg.com/?gclid=CjwKCAjwq9mLBhB2EiwAuYdMtap9DHkVmlcWeMg-TXG5G6ixjuW3wQmYTMri01bW_WSNpLOrqzjbTRoCqnYQAvD_BwE
Practicing Tantra by yourself or with a partner is something I cannot recommend enough. PLEASE look into it, your sex like with soar be it by yourself or with someone you love.
Here are some books I recommend
~ Tantric Sex for Men: Making Love a Meditation
~ Heart of Tantric Sex: A Unique Guide to Love and Sexual Fulfillment
~ Urban Tantra, Second Edition: Sacred Sex for the Twenty-First Century
~Jewel in the Lotus/The Tantric Path to Higher Consciousness (best book)
~ Secrets of Tantric Sex
~Tantric Orgasm for Women
As always if you have any questions about what I have written feel free to reach out to me or leave a question or comment. I hope your sex life soars and your personal life soars after reading about this and gaining some more knowledge on the subject!
Cheers XOXO
Mistress Scarlett
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